Same-Sex Marriage Proposal: Ideas, Tips & Photos

Gay and Lesbian proposals are also exactly like heterosexual proposals, however, they have a few differences that make them unique! This blog post is meant to answer some common questions about same-sex proposals and inspire you with proposal destinations, photos, and poses. So let’s dive right in!

Captured by Marion in Puerto Vallarta

Who Pops the Question?!

We get this question a lot! The beautiful thing is that each Gay and Lesbian relationship is unique and will have its own preferences on which partner should propose to the other. Some couples have a conversation about who should be the one to ask, some decide to wait for however decides to ask first, and others prefer to plan a special moment when they can ask each other at the same time (this is called a double proposal!) There is no rule book for Gay Proposals & Lesbian Proposals, there is only feeling, intuition and LOVE. 

Captured by David in San Francisco

Double Proposals 

A double proposal is pretty much multiplying the grand romantic gesture by 2! The more the better right!? In this kind of same-sex proposal, both partners decide they want to propose to each other at the same time and exchange proposal rings. This is actually very common in LGBT+ relationships. The great thing about this is that, since both partners are aware, you get to plan a romantic special event together! This also means the Gay and Lesbian couple get to pick out rings together. 

Surprise Double Proposals

Ok, this is when it gets both confusing and very interesting. A surprise double proposal is when one of the partners proposes to the other in a regular surprise proposal manner yet plans to have two rings so that both partners get to exchange rings. This is also known as a Single-Double Proposal but I felt like that title was extra confusing. During this kind of same-sex proposal, one of the partners decides to propose and the other doesn’t know when it is going to happen but both of them get rings! I love it! It keeps the surprise element of a marriage proposal but adds more rings… which is always a good idea. 

Captured by Ely in Cabo

Top Gay & Lesbian Proposal Destinations 

Choose a destination that best represents you both! Your love, your style, your passions. Below is our list of the top places to get engaged for same-sex couples, but remember, there’s a whole world out there to explore!

New York 

The city’s breathtaking skyline, vibrant culture, and incredible restaurants will surely knock your partner’s socks off by adding a sparkly engagement ring to the mix. NYC offers so many great proposal locations including stunning rooftops, Central Park, the Rockefeller ice rink, Brooklyn Bridge, Time Square, and the list goes on. If you are looking for memorable proposal ideas, you’ll definitely find some good ones in NYC. Plus New York City has a fantastic LGTQ+ community! Let’s not forget we have so many amazing photographers based in NYC that will be thrilled to capture your iconic gay/lesbian proposal.

Captured by Masha in New York City

Puerto Vallarta Mexico 

Let’s start by stating some facts, Puerto Vallarta has been one of the hottest gay destinations for a long time! It is known for having a large variety of LGBTQ bars, clubs, shops, and events. Puerto Vallarta is both stunning and exhilarating! This vibrant town will have you and your partner making lifetime memories including saying “YES”. If you are interesting if finding the perfect spot to propose in Puerto Vallarta, check out this blog post we wrote Puerto Vallarta Proposal Ideas: Best Places for an Epic Engagement

Captured By Marion in Puerto Vallarta


If you are your partner are beach bums, Cabo is the place for you! Cabo offers countless romantic opportunities to propose with your toes in the sand. Find the perfect moment to make your love endless while enjoying a private yacht tour, walking on the beach at sunset, scuba diving at the Lunderberg shipwreck site, or enjoying the best tacos of your life. Whichever adventure your choose, we’ve got the best proposal photographer to capture it. 

Captured by Elizabeth in Cabo

San Francisco

As the 13th largest city in the US and the 4th largest city in California, San Francisco has no shortage of historic and romantic places to propose, and let’s not forget, The LGTBQ+ community in San Francisco is one of the largest and most prominent LGBTQ+ communities in the United States! This city may as well be the “queer capital of the world”. It’s known for its beautiful views, colorful architecture, impressive culinary industry, vibrant nightlife, and of course that stunning bridge everybody talks about. Here are a few of our photographer’s fav spots for surprise proposal shoots in San Francisco: Fort Point, Palace of Fine Arts, Ocean Beach, Japanese Tea Garden, Conservatory of Flowers, Marin Headlands, Baker beach, or Golden Gate Bridge vista points like this beautiful lesbian couple did show below!

Captured by David in San Francisco


This enchanted Island has all the ingredients to make your partner fall in love over and over again. If you and your partner are nature lovers this may be the perfect spot for your proposal. Marriage proposals, weddings, and honeymoons make up a massive part of the Island’s economy. There are endless services to help you set up the perfect scene to propose including a variety of Local Lens Photographers! Maui offers the opportunity for romantic proposals on the beach, hiking a volcano, taking a helicopter ride over waterfalls, sailing through the sunset, and more! 

Captured by Sierra in Maui

Las Vegas

If you want to be entertained this is the location for you! It is renowned for gambling, shopping, fine dining, entertainment, and nightlife. But beyond all of that, it offers some incredible proposal locations in the city as well as outside of the city. In the city, you get amazing locations like the Eiffel Tower, the Top of the Word restaurant, Mizumi, Bellagio Fountain, and the Bellagio Conservatory Gardens. Just outside of vegas there are stunning outdoor locations like Red Rock Canyon, Neon Museum, Spring Preserve, Death Valley, Antelope Canyon, and much more.  

Captured by Michelle in Las Vegas

Every couple is different, and every proposal is unique! Your proposal will be a story that you tell for years to come, so make sure you have photos of the moment to cherish the love, the joy, the tears, and the surprise!

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